So what separates a "relationship" from a "friendship", and why should one make that separation? HAH, I've been asking myself that question since I broke up with my first boyfriend. I swore I'd never "date" again until I found the right one, but it turns out I've done that three more times since then. And every time I get in a relationship, it's the same old story. We hit it off great, we start spending lots of time together, we start telling eachother how much we love eachother, etc. Then the holding hands comes in, and you can't leave out the hugging and kissing! Ah, the relationship is going great, we love eachother, and hopefully sometime soon we'll get married because we can't stand to be apart. But hmm, what happened to that spiritual aspect? We used to at least talk about God alittle, but now we're lucky if we get a chapter of Bible thrown in before we start all the emotional mess.
What makes relationships go this way? Why do I have deeper spiritual conversations with even my casual friends than with my "boyfriends"? It's like I am totally on fire for God in all aspects of my life, but when I get with that "special someone" it all goes out the window, and soon I find myself in an emotional shipwreck not looking to God in anything. Man, will I ever figure it out?
Thinking and praying about it, I think the answer lies in this. Why get involved emotionally and physically just to "date"? What is it going to do for the souls of both parties? God made physical intimacy for a man and a woman when they become one in His sight, that is, when they take their vows and become married. Yes, a relationship does have to grow, but it needs to grow first and foremost spiritually. To be blunt but honest about it, at least how I feel, if two people do not agree spiritually and are not basing their relationship soley on God, they have no buisness being anything more than friends. I want to live my life for God, and if anything stands in my way, I need to evaluate exactly what I am doing. The Bible says if your right hand offends you, cut it off. There is nothing wrong with your right hand in and of itself, but the purpose of the passage is, even if something that seems good draws you away from God and or leads you into sin, you must eliminate it from your life. So even if a relationship that seems good is causing me to lose focus on God, I need to back up and revaluate things in my own life. I should not even consider marrying someone, and in turn, dating someone, unless I see us both drawing eachother closer to God and together bettering God's kingdom. A proper relationship is not two way, it's a pyramid, with God at the top.
So there's my take on it all. I just had to get that off my chest. God bless you all, and if you are in a relationship, ask yourselves this question? What do the two of you do for eachother spiritually (not just are you both saved and go to church), and how does your relationship better the kingdom of God? I think you will find that true contentment in a relationship lies in these two questions, no matter how much it may hurt to admit the truth.
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